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Singing the praises of friendship
Opinion: More to it than meets the eye.
I watched Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist last night, and some parts of the movie really made me think. So time, relationships and friendship are the themes of this piece.
I think that the film hits all of these three on the head quite well. This isn’t a film review by the way; I’m just using it as a metaphor, because what’s being going on in my life over the past few weeks is in some ways just like the film.
In the film, there’s an exchange that goes:
“You just haven’t figured it out yet, have you?”
“What?”
“The big picture!”
“I guess not.”
“The Beatles.”
“What about them?”
“This.” [Thom grabs Nick's hand]
“Look, other bands, they want to make it about sex or pain, but you know, The Beatles, they had it all figured out, okay?”
“I Want to Hold Your Hand”. The first single. It’s effin’ brilliant, right?… That’s what everybody wants, Nicky. They don’t want a twenty-four-hour hump sesh, they don’t want to be married to you for a hundred years. They just want to hold your hand.”
I think that this is true. I particularly like that last part. To me, (and you can interpret this whatever way you want), it means that time, relationships and friendships are more connected than I thought before. I have just come out of a 10 month relationship and at 22, I believe that that’s quite long for a relationship. She is still my best friend, and the thing I miss the most is holding her hand. As the quote said, you don’t have to be married for a hundred years to be with someone for life.
The time we spent in the relationship together was great, but nothing has changed now that we’re ‘broken up’. I made a friend for life. The only thing that’s different, is that as friends, in this day and age, people believe that if you are in any way close or intimate you must be going out. I hate that. A friendship between guys and girls now is seen to be a relationship.
What does ‘going out’ mean anyway? I ask, if you are very close to someone, what’s the difference? The only difference is the sexual aspect. I read another quote once that went “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born”. This is true. I wouldn’t be writing this piece now if I hadn’t met a friend, or two friends in fact. That line is what got me to thinking about this entry. And if I hadn’t gotten the film of a friend, I wouldn’t have heard it. And then a new thought process was born.
I want to leave you with another quote, one that to me sums up this whole piece. “Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.”
A friendship is a relationship, the two are intertwined. Writing this has helped me to come to term with a lot (and it makes sense in my head). I hope that you got something from it too.
By: maceiteagain
