Facebook
Twitter
YouTube
Falling for the friend
Opinion: Written with a variety of references to the Mean Girls film.
In the film Brothers, Natalie Portman fell for Jake Gylenhaal because she thought Tobey Maguire was, well, dead. Okay, so you can’t necessarily blame the girl, Jake is totally like, a 10, and Tobey, he’s only attractive when he’s having that whole upside down snog fest with Mary Jane in Spiderman. Anyway, this is a far-fetched example, the point I’m trying to make is that falling for the friend easily happens, and for anyone who has seen Forgetting Sarah Marshall, it is a mind-fuck.
Here’s the story. You’ve been dating this boy who is like, totally into you, and things are going great, right? You really like him and because of his sweet personality you choose to overlook the fact that he’s in love with his cat. A lot. You’re in the club and he introduces you to O M frickin’ G, is that his friend? His best friend. You say hi and begin chatting to this hottie; when click, the chemistry sparks up a fire from nothing, but sticks. He’s funny, kind of cute and totally your type. Uh-oh. Next step in this twisted love affair? Denial. "No, I couldn’t like him, could I? Nope definitely don’t."
Wake the f**k up honey, you do! You’re a woman possessed. You spend 80% of your time talking about him and the other 20% praying for somebody to bring him up so that you can talk about him more. Why can’t the guy you’re dating just move to Africa and be like, home schooled, because his hot ass friend is giving you all the right signals?
So what is the problem I hear you ask? You’re dating his frickin' friend! Girls don’t know guy code, because frankly we don’t care, but I’m pretty sure it’s a little similar to girl code – don’t take your friends boyfriend, even if his hair does look sexy pushed back. Damn it. Unless you two go down the whole making out in the projection room above the auditorium route, then this steamy situation is never gonna get the thumbs up.
How does a girl deal with this one? Either way, somebody’s going to get hurt and baby if you can’t take the heat then you better get your sweet ass out of that kitchen because it’s goin’ be you. Tread carefully.
In the real world, the right thing to do would be to end it with the boy and stay clear of the best friend, just to avoid any drunken situations where you can’t fight the urge to chat that cutie up.
I say be careful and let this one take its course. Take a step back and let whatever is going to happen, happen. It’s your best option. You don’t want to be forever known as the bitch that broke up two best friends now, do you? Play this one cool.
By: Grace Weldon
Submit your own article to SpunOut. It's easy peasy!
