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Pregnant: deciding who to tell

Supportive information on who to talk to when you find out you are pregnant.

Article by : SpunOut.ie

So, it’s really true. You’ve just found out. There’s no doubt. You’re pregnant. You’ll always remember this moment. The rush of a thousand feelings. And the big question – what now?

Finding out that you’re pregnant is a huge deal no matter who you are. So many questions come rushing into your head. Who do I tell? What do I do? Who can give me advice?

Your family and friends can be great, so let them know what’s going on. But if you’re worried or panicking about talking to them about your pregnancy, you have other choices.

When you don’t know who to turn to, that’s where the Crisis Pregnancy Agency can help. The Crisis Pregnancy Agency funds pregnancy counselling agencies around the country under their Positive Options programme. Counsellors in these agencies can help you sort out your feelings about being pregnant and to look at all your future options. Counselling is free, trustworthy and they won’t judge you.

If it’s possible, talk to the baby’s dad. Remember, it’s his baby too. Even though you might both be very upset at first, after the initial shock it may be possible to talk things through to arrive at the best decision for everybody. Your baby’s father can also use the pregnancy counselling agencies mentioned above.Your GP/doctor can help with pregnancy counselling too.

Freetext ‘list’ to 50444 for a list of free, non-judgemental, trustworthy counselling agencies or visit www.positiveoptions.ie.

When sharing the news:

Have you told anyone yet? Remember, while you might be slow to tell, you can get a lot of support from those around you.

  • The dad might find it difficult to accept that you’re pregnant, or he might be thrilled. You won’t know until you tell him. He could surprise you! Whatever the reaction, at least you’ll know where you stand.
  • Your Mam and Dad will nearly always come around after the initial shock. Just give them a chance. They care about you and that you’re ok.
  • Tell a friend or two because sooner or later it’s going to become obvious. And it’s better if you decide when to tell people rather than people finding out through gossip. Friends know you and love you. They will just want to support you.
  • It might be hard to get the words out, but generally the sooner you tell, the better.  Once they know, people can give you the ongoing support you really need. Give them time and a chance to help and support you.


Content developed by Treoir the National Information Centre for Unmarried Parents.

 

For further supportive information, please contact Treoir on:

LoCall: 1890252084
Tel: 01–6700 120
Email: info@treoir.ie.

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