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My experience coming out
True life: Life is too short to waste on endless worry about what the world will say.
Heya guys!! My name is Jack and as it happens, I am gay. I have been out for a number of years (since I was 14) and it's been a long time since I've thought about my sexuality.
It wasn't until recently, when a friend of mine broke down in tears and told me he was gay, that I really thought about it at all. He was completely petrified! To be honest I was taken aback, as for me it had been a long time since my sexuality had bothered me.
The following is what I experienced when coming out:
"What’s up Jack" said Hattie (my best bud at the time).
"Nothing", I said with a really weird fake smile, but Hattie could always see through me like glass and she had suspected I was gay for ages.
"Jack just tell me", she said with a giggle.
Visions of becoming every girl’s handbag and every boy’s punching bag flashed through my mind, but with Hattie, there was no point in trying to hide it and she eventually wriggled it out of me.
To my surprise it didn’t bother her. As far as she was concerned I was her best friend and this was just another aspect of my personality, in fact, this went for all my friends. Now, obviously there is always going to be that group of ‘big, tough, hardy’ boys who will try to be funny in front of their mates by shouting crap at you, but let’s be honest, they’re the ones who'll drive their mobiles into a wall one day so I think it’s fair to say their opinion doesn't really matter, now does it?
By the next term at school, my coming out was old news and the gossip moved quickly onto another of my friends (who got pregnant and made me the godfather –yay!) and that was the end of the drama.
When I told my parents they were fine with it because in fairness to them, they are intelligent people and they understand it is the way I was born. From then on life went back to normal.
I guess the reason I am writing this article is to say to all the closet cases out there: don't worry! You've got to just hold your head up high and be brave.
We all face unexpected and sometimes shocking surprises in life, but life is too short to waste on endless days of worry about what the world will say. We are all special and each and every one of us has the power within us to be ourselves, be happy and be fabulous!
By: Anonymous
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