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Friend or foe?
Opinion: Learn the difference!
Friendship is one of the most important things in a person’s life. Without friendship, there would be only isolation and loneliness. It is one of life’s necessities. If you have friends to rely on, you can get through anything life throws at you. Friends are there to celebrate the good times and mourn the bad. Friends are there to tell you the truth about everything and correct you when you’re wrong.
Sometimes, however, you meet the frenemies. Where would teenage life be without them, eh? Frenemies are those lovely people who drift in and out of your life, being there, screwing you over, coming back and doing it all over again. You think they’re fantastic for helping you when you’ve got a problem. The problem is, more often than not, they’re not exactly helpful in keeping the problem to themselves. Malicious gossip ensues and then you find out who your friends really are.
Everyone goes through this at some point in their lives. It teaches you about trust and what kind of people to generally avoid as much as you can. If you’re the ‘friend’ who’s just done the dirt, you also learn a valuable lesson…everything eventually comes back to bite you in the ass! The pain you’ve caused may lesson, but the trust has been permanently damaged.
I’ve been on both sides of the fence and believe me, it isn’t pretty. I’ve learnt good lessons though; perhaps a little too late, but I’ve learnt them all the same. Gossip is so easy to get caught up in that you don’t think before you’re blabbing someone else’s secrets. It seems so innocent at the time….until it becomes a vicious circle right back at you.
The next time you feel inclined to get caught up in mindless rambling: remember what goes around comes around. It isn’t all fun and games when the person who you’ve talked about finds out about it and you’re faced with two scenarios. 1) They call you a bitch and never talk to you again or 2) They ask you how you could do that when they thought they could trust you? Personally, I think number two is the absolute worst. You feel like crap for betraying their trust and try to think of valid reasons for why you did what you did. Can you ever find any? No, because there are none!
If you’re the person who’s been hurt, don’t do the nasty thing and try and get your own back. It only accentuates the damage already done. Keep your head up and move on. At least, everyone knows your ‘friend’ is an ass and can’t be trusted with anything.
'Keep your friends close and your enemies’ closer is a phrase I never really understood as a child. But now, I realise it was the best bit of advice I was ever given. Keep your thoughts to yourself and know when talking is going to get you into trouble.
By: tweetiepiexxx
