Text dumping

"Text dumping", the new craze sweeping the country, don't believe me?

Ask all the teenagers out there whom this has happened to. The standard message tone beeps and you are expecting a really nice sweet message from the person you are seeing. It starts out nice then you get to the middle of the message and oops you’re dumped.

I honestly don’t understand how people can be so insensitive, it’s like there is a manual out there of excuses. How many of you have heard “There is someone else” “I’m just not looking for anything right now” “You’re too good for me”. Now I’m pretty sure if you had a free house and were willing to jump into bed with these people they would be willing to propose marriage.

It’s not really a laughing matter though. I think in a way, text dumping is worse than face-to-face dumping. If you are face to face with a person you can tell from the tone and atmosphere that perhaps the end is near, but with a text message it could start off with “Hi baby” “Hey hottie” and end with “I’m sorry” “it’s not you it’s me”. It’s after the initial shock that you start wondering, “What is wrong with me?”

I know personally that I felt lost. And I know this is dramatic but I thought I’d be alone for the rest of my life! I just cried and automatically blamed myself. It may sound extreme but I know friends who have lost their appetites, become depressed, had their confidence lowered and self esteem destroyed from these 11 cents messages.

It’s not a pleasant thing to experience and it may have devastating consequences.

My advice for people who are planning on dumping through a text message is don’t do it. It’s rude, cowardly and pathetic. If you are going to hurt this person you should at least have the guts to do it face to face and not to take the easy way out by using your fingers.

The funny thing regarding these break ups through text messages is that the person who sent the messages gets away with it. I think many of us blame ourselves and then we think of every single conversation, action we did in their presence and start to go crazy with the “What if’s”.

At the same time, the other half is out there having the time of their lives, probably getting more numbers from people they are eventually going to dump.

Believe me when I say it’s not your fault. Do not spend your time wondering what you did wrong, because it’s the other way about. Get rid of your guilty conscience and just hold your head up high and take comfort in the fact that you are a good person who will find someone.

“There are plenty more fish in the sea” and for all you text dumpers out there “There are plenty more dogs in the pound.”

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